Emotions: There's Not Always a Place for Them
Being emotional is something I've always been taught to be. Growing up in a religious household I was always told to be compassionate and caring about, well... everyone and everything. As I've grown up I've come to realize how much this doesn't work in a world filled with prejudice, conflict and malevolence.
One of the biggest problems I have with emotions is injecting emotions into situations in which they have no place. You know, when you subjectively blow up with emotion and accuse someone of something that they did not by any means do?
Like when you call and text your classmate about hanging out and they don't reply for days and you think of one time when you said something embarrassing in front of them so you mournfully conclude that they think you are an awkward misfit who would drag them down the ladder to mainstream acceptance if they respond to your text.
When in reality, they skimmed through their texts while they were at work and never got a chance to reply and forgot by the time they got off.
Our assumptions of what people think and why they respond is incorrectly interpreted and blown up out of proportion, thus leading us to overreact to things and take them personally.
Things are what they are despite how you view them. Just because we project something as a big deal does not necessarily mean it's a big deal to anyone else on earth.
For us to take an objective situation, such as when you're spending time with someone and they leave the room to talk on the phone, and turn it into "they must be so sick of being around me" and "they are so rude and do not have any respect for me", is a completely ignorant and inappropriate time to warp a situation into something personal and emotional.
Emotions have no place in objective situations.
He picked up the phone when his sister called.
He did not reject you, he did not leave you, he did not want to show you how little he cares for you.
He picked up the phone, and that's it.
Don't turn something, into something emotional.
Being subjective towards someone with no logical reasoning does not make your emotions valid.
It's not fair to anyone, and you'll just end up looking petty and melodramatic. No one pities you. It's time to grow up and take charge of your own actions and emotions instead of sprinkling them all over situations where they do not belong.
